Growing up I was always told God would not give you more than you can handle, but the pain I experience day in and day out are really challenging this belief. I know that life shakes us up, it challenges our resolve and gives us opportunities to grow, but we have to accept those challenges and see them as opportunities, or growth does not occur. Yet, here I am today in pain with no relief, and so I question can I handle it? Am I strong enough? So I reflect…
I have literally walked through the valley of the shadow of death and returned. I died multiple times, I saw death, I saw what I believed to be GOD and it was not my time. I came back to a beaten body, I was told I would not walk again, I would not be the same again…Had I listen and believed what they told me, they would have been right. I did not, I fought through pain that cannot be described with words, I fought through surgery after surgery, rehab after rehab, and become stronger each time. So, again I asked myself, can I handle it? Am I strong enough?
HELL YES I CAN!!!!! If I told myself anything else, I would fall!
The truth is, there have been many times, where I did fall, where I had to put my hand out and ask for help. That is what a warrior does…whatever is necessary to rise and fight again.
The thing is we are often told that you have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps, don’t shed a tear boy be strong, keep fighting. Grind through it, No Pain, No Gain….
Sometimes, that is just wrong! We are human, and we must learn to feel, no matter what that feeling may be. Science backs this, when we shed a tear, scientist can look at it under a microscope and tell you how you were feeling when you shed the tear. Each tear contains different hormones, and saline levels, which tells us the feeling is being released from our core, the negative energy is no longer weighing us down.
We need to feel, we need to be strong, but we also have to understand that asking for help, is ok. Losing a battle is ok. Bruce Lee said it best when he said, “To me defeat in anything simply tells me something is wrong in my doing; it is a path leading to success and truth.” So fall, fight, learn, and grow.